Gathering my thoughts, or trying…

Our family is changing. Not in the way that probably came to mind, Irish and I arent ready to add to our brood just yet. In fact the opposite of an addition is happening. My big boy, though hes only nearly 5, is moving away with his dad, The Creative Rebel, to Bali. They’re leaving on Tuesday. I havent really been able to gather my thoughts on how I feel about the future for Dude and I, his leaving and our being apart for an unknown amount of time. The possibility that he may not want to come back to be a permanent part of our family. But I have to let him go. I cant be the one to chain him down. Obviously he’s just a kid, but his dad is a good man and father and I trust him with the body, mind and soul of my boy.

Ive obviously known its been coming for a while, but the closer it comes the more it hits home. Like this morning, Tiny Dancer woke up and crawled over to Dude’s bed (at the foot of ours, we all sleep together in our “family bedroom”) and Irish and I didnt stop her, like we usually do because she’ll wake him up and he’ll get cranky 😛 But he’s having his last sleepover at the Grandies so his bed is empty. She’s going to miss him. They’re going to be trouble together when they’re older, I suspect, probably like Irish and his younger sister were as kids… 😉 And I have to be optimistic that those times will eventuate, for the sake of TIny Dancer and the rest of us.

We’ve got some huge changes ahead of us (the three left “behind”) as well; really, really exciting news that im DYING to share but must be patient with 😉 But I know our family will probably be in a constant state of flux, basically for the rest of our lives, as far as “how it looks” and who belongs to it. Im ok with that.

Just a few random thoughts on a Saturday morning!
Xx

Happy Birth-Day to Us!

Here we are! This is our very first post on our brand spankin’ new web presence. This oughtta be a trip, too, ’cause neither of us have any real idea of how to build and maintain a wordpress site <grin>… So, y’know, any and all suggestions and help will be graciously accepted – this theme is so not us! 😛

Who the heck are we, anyway? Well, we’re a blended family of 4; Me, (you can call me Avalon, though its not my real name), Dadda (we’ll just call him the Irishman, or hey, why not just Irish :-P), Tiny Dancer, 9 months, (not an original nickname, I have to credit Free Your Kids with that one, but it just suits her so.damn.well. that I couldn’t go past it) and The Dude, Dudey or Buddy, as we refer to him at home, who’s 4 and a half, and “belongs” to another Dadda, The Creative Rebel. We’re a ragtag bunch, pretty much just fumbling our way through a whole buncha cruncha stuff. Step-parent-hood, for one, in the case of the Irishman and Dudey. And NEW parenthood, to boot! Tiny Dancer is his first, in what we hope will be a brood of wee’ns. We’re what Im going to just blanket term “gentle” parents, with heavy Libertarian leanings. We follow some of the Attachment Parenting “principals”, but not all of them – whatever that even means, anyway. We’re homeschoolers. Or more accurately, Unschoolers, more on that at a later date. We’re homesteaders (gee REALLY?) – suburban for the moment, rural at heart. We’re dreamers, but doers too. Irish is what every Aussie would call “a tradie”, and me, well, Ive worn a few different hats over the years – dog groomer, vet nurse, birth doula, single mama – right at the minute Ive put down my “occupational” tools to raise my kids and self educate. There’s a load of stuff Id like to study; yoga, personal training, counselling, naturopathy, midwifery….yeah, loads. Id say watch this space, ’cause its gunna happen, just a matter of time. But right now I’m a blogess, mother, daughter, friend, lover, partner… all round domestic engineer goddess.

This space will be as much a therapeutic outlet for me, Mama, as it will a record of our journey – we’ve got a huge dream in our pipeline, but will be keeping mostly mum about it until we’ve got some concrete plans in place. So hanging around for the big reveal will be worth it 😉 In the meantime, I’ll be posting about our trials and tribulations with growing our own food and the general joys and sorrows of trying to be the parents we WANT to be, rather than the parents we’ve been “brought up to be”.

I’m totally going to monetize this blog, (why wouldn’tcha), but with a commitment to endorse and partner only with people and products I use and love myself. I really have no idea where this could lead – youtube tutes, classes (online and in person), a home based business – I sure hope so! Right now, and for a few years already, Ive been using, loving and selling Ayana Organics skincare. I’m gonna pick up my efforts and bring it to market – my first as a *proper* stall holder, egads! So y’all should totally come along and buy stuff from me 😀

But in the meantime, help a gal out. Spam me with SUPER easy to follow wordpress tutorials. I cant even figure out how to add a “cover” photo, which is rather ridiculous, considering I’ve studied multimedia and web authoring. But that was a whole other lifetime ago….